Counselling
People who have come to me for counselling have had many different experiences.
- You may feel angry, scared, sad, depressed, anxious, stressed or lonely.
- You may be grieving, have a lack of confidence, a difficult decision to make, difficulty sleeping, concerns about sex or
- experience of abuse.
- Your problems may be with relationships, family, work or school.
- You may be feeling that life has taken the wrong turning and at a loss as to which direction to go.
- You may be feeling unseen and unheard.
When you come to me you can talk about and work with your individual needs. I can help you
- Understand difficult emotions
- Better accept and understand yourself
- Make sense of your circumstances
- Work out your own options
- Move on better equipped to cope with the future
I offer you time and space where you can feel safe talking to someone who listens to your point of view, who accepts who you are, who doesn’t tell you what to do and who will not discriminate against you.
I will listen deeply, though not be shy to offer thoughts that occur to me along the way. I might be able to offer tools and techniques that can help, or maybe I might know of different approaches that can offer you different insights.
There is safety in exploring your own experience in a confidential environment. I liken it to being on a journey. You may find you need to stop and look at the map for some reason. Perhaps you are lost, or don’t like the road you have been on. Maybe you wonder what other roads are out there. It might be that the ride has been very bumpy or traumatic even. Counselling offers you a chance to stop, see how you are feeling and what you might need. It’s like looking at the map. If I see something on the map, I might point it out to you if I think it could be helpful – but very much for you to take or leave!
I work face-to-face in Horrabridge, Devon, as well as online. I charge £70 per hour. First session is charged at half-price. Please read my Counselling Agreement here.
What is the Difference between Counselling & Psychotherapy?
There is a view that counselling works in the short term and with fewer complex issues, whereas psychotherapy works with more chronic mental and physical health problems. It focuses on the client’s thought processes and way of being in the world rather than specific problems.
I feel that both ways of working overlap and therefore I see myself fulfilling both roles in the way I work.
What is CBT and how does it differ from Counselling and Psychotherapy?
CBT is a very structured and practical approach to helping people identify and then change unhelpful thinking and behavioural patterns. While it can be delivered with empathy and support, it does not emphasise free talking or much exploration of the past and is more directive than counselling and psychotherapy. It can be seen as more of a “treatment” for depression and anxiety. Counselling and psychotherapy offer more space and time for free exploration, allowing the client to find their way through talking about experiences.
I sometimes offer a possibility of a combined approach if you and I feel it might be useful. I find much of the knowledge-base and techniques used in CBT to be very helpful indeed. I like to present the concepts as things that may be of help, rather than structure sessions around the delivery of these techniques. CBT is very solution focussed. I remain person-centred, while incorporating some of these more solution-focussed techniques.
I also incorporate Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, a derivative of CBT which has combined with Eastern meditation techniques. MBCT trains a person to observe rather than react to thoughts, as they flow in and out of the mind. This reduces the struggle against unhelpful thoughts and encourages acceptance, rather than resistance.
Please read my Counselling/psychotherapy agreement in full on this following link: Counselling/psychotherapy agreement